Archive for July, 2010

Book Review by Midwifery Today

[Review first published in Midwifery Today Issue 89, Spring 2009, © 2009, Midwifery Today, Inc. Review by Elise Hansen.]

When I first picked up Giuditta Tornetta’s book Painless Childbirth, I must admit that I was skeptical. What was she proposing? Was this just another “method” that would hold women to a standard that might leave them feeling guilty or disempowered when they could not attain it? And should women even want a painless childbirth? Haven’t we learned that pain is part of the natural process—even a manageable part that releases all those love hormones, helps us bond with our babies and moves us into motherhood? However, as one of those women who DID experience painless childbirth, I was also intrigued. How could she possibly explain or try to teach what I knew was unteachable.

To my pleasant surprise, she does it: First, by declaring that painless childbirth is a right and then by explaining just what that entails. Tornetta interweaves relationships among nine chakras, or energy fields, with nine basic human rights and the nine months of gestation. Each chapter focuses briefly on one month of fetal development, the main ruling of one particular chakra and how they each relate to a particular fundamental human right. For example, she notes that in the second gestational month, the baby’s arms and fingers are formed “to touch the ‘other,’” the quality of the second chakra is “emotions toward the ‘other,’” and the basic human right is to feel and to want. Throughout that chapter she focuses on feelings—about the pregnancy and birth, about the woman’s own birth, about the impact those feelings have on her experience—and one wants—the right to want and how to go about expressing and getting that want fulfilled, especially regarding birth hopes and plans.

Each chapter begins with a paragraph-long affirmation using such terms as “I am confidant…,” “I declare my right to…,” “I am grateful for…” These would be wonderful used as cards to select each day of the pregnancy or posted on the walls of a laboring woman’s room. After discussing the development, chakra, human right relationship, she then fleshes out the chapter with basic coping mechanisms and user-friendly tools to help break the barriers of insecurities and complaints (physical and emotional) that come up during pregnancy and labor. In addition birth stories are scattered throughout the book.
My favorite part was the chapter on love—the exhortations to love yourself and your partner (with practical exercises to help), to love how you look (with a discussion of nutrition and weight gain) and to use love as a healing tool (again, with simple walk-through aids). I felt that this chapter alone would go a long way in helping pregnant women work through their fears surrounding birth and new motherhood.
So, the “painless” part. Tornetta expresses this best herself when she says, “To achieve a painless childbirth, you must experience pain—not necessarily physical pain, but the pain of change, of letting go of old habits, beliefs, resentments, behaviors and attitudes.” And, no, this is not another “method” book, but an inspirational guide through the journey that is pregnancy, labor and birth.

Reviewer Elise Hansen has been involved in women’s health care for over 25 years, has naturally birthed four children (including a footling breech), is a proofreader for Midwifery Today, academic copyeditor, a Spanish-language medical interpreter and is currently practicing as a homebirth midwife in Oregon. She still has implicit trust in gentle, non-interventive birth.

Save the Date & Be Amazed in Bali, Indonesia October 2012

 Loving the Mother and Celebrating Womanhood

Imagine an extraordinary gathering of women awakening to their full potential and acting as powerful and co-creative agents for change. Explore womanhood, sexuality, and your life purpose.

A 10 day  total immersion workshop with

Midwife and CNN Hero Robin Lim
Esalen® Massage Guru Ellen Watson
Best-Selling Author and Doula Giuditta Tornetta
Director oasis school of massage & healing Ingrid May
and Permaculture Goddess Rachel Love

Workshop Itinerary:

4 days in Ubud

    • Arrival on October 12, transport to hotel/resort, welcoming ritual open yourself up to a re-birthing experience. Giuditta will guide you through a re-birthing meditation and welcome ritual.
    • October 13th through 15th the journey begins learn about your own entrance into this world (your birth) get in touch with your unique gifts meant to heal not only your soul but the entire world. Using hypnosis, ecstatic dance, massage, guided meditation, advance doula and midwifery techniques (with Ibu Robin Lim) you will be ushered into the art of birthing…a new life…a new self…a new you.
  • Plus meet with Ketut Liyer, the traditional Balinese healer and shaman featured in the book “Eat Pray Love” by Elizabeth Gibert

Followed by….

6 days at the drop dead gorgeous Mimpi Resort with natural spring water hot tubs, and delicious organic food.

Beautiful Bali

  • Join women from around the globe in exploring womanhood, sexuality, and refining your life’s purpose
  • Align your chakras through SpiritDance,Sound & Song, Partner Yoga, breath & bodywork,
  • Learn advanced Midwifery and Doula protocols
  • Learn perinatal and side lying massage as you give and receive.
  • Through ritual and ceremony, explore the depths of being a woman
  • Discover the natural gifts of Mother Earth in Mimpi’s Permaculture Gardens; learn how to recognize food and healing herbs in the wild
  • Sublime Spa experiences in Ubud, and at Mimpi Spring’s Spa: Massage & Bodywork, Thai Bodywork, Aquatic Bodywork, Herbal/Sea Salt Scrubs, & more.
  • CE’s for Bodyworkers, Nurses, and Doulas through  DONA international.

This workshop includes:

  • For both locations: shared standard accommodation  (two to a room) or for an extra charge you can reserve a deluxe room with private pool and spa (please contact us if you would like to upgrade)
  • Two meals – Plus smoothie breakfast – 90 % organic food offering both vegetarian and healthy protein
  • Workshops and guest speakers
  • Transportation from Ubud to Mimpi.

This workshop Does Not Include:

  • Airfare from country of origin to Bali (we will let you know once you have reserved your space about the amazing discount fares that will come up occasionally during the year)
  • Visa (entrance and exit required)
  • Transportation to and from airport to Ubud. We cannot coordinate this due to the different arrival of guests from different countries. We can however help with organizing individual or group transportation
  • Excursion to the Town of Ubud, snorkeling, massage or spa days (we do however offer a special pampering package for those who would like to enjoy the spa in Mimpi with our expertly trained Esalen® Massage therapists. Please ask for details.


Early Bird special ENDED ON APRIL 1st. The price until August 1st is now 2,000 ($500 non-refundable deposit required to reserve space)

To receive this price you must pay in full by August 1, 2012.

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For Assistants Only: Special  Opportunity

Currently we are full for assistant role, however please send your name to rebecca@movingventures and we will put you on a wait list.

Assistant duties include helping facilitators with set-up/breakdown and any other needs they have during the 10 days. You will need to be available at all times during the 10 days to help as needed. Assistants price is $1200 Paid in Full (no exceptions), there are no refunds for assistants. If you need to cancel you will need to find someone to fill your space and take over your payment. 

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MORE about the workshop>>>

This workshop is designed for everyone especially for those who want to birth a new self and understand their womanhood from a visceral and ancestral point of view. By loving ourselves and Mother Earth as well as our own mother and ancestors we can become a better instrument of God’s healing to this world. Of course this workshop is also perfect for Doulas, Midwives and midwives in training 10 CEUs from DONA are available for those seeking continuing education credits.

Your retreat leaders, Giuditta & Ellen, are committed to creating a safe and welcoming environment using hypnosis, journal writing, massage, movement (i.e. belly dance and ecstatic dance designed to keeping the pelvis open,) and guided imagery. Each of us will have the opportunity to recall our lives while in the womb, and re-experience our own birth.

A space will be held for you to have a shift in consciousness from “Life is happening to me” to “I am the creator of my own life.”  As you birth a new self, you will be given the tools needed to facilitate people of all ages resolve and redesign prenatal and birth trauma impressions.  Watch a video to find out more about the style of massage you will be introduced to, click here>>>  To read more about Ellen and Esalen® massage click here.

This workshop is designed for a wide range of professional backgrounds and skills including: body workers, nurses, medical doctors, midwives, doulas, childbirth educators, infant massage therapists, regular and special education teachers, counselors, and psychologists.

Facilitators

Robin Lim: 2011 CNN Hero is a mother, grandmother, author, poet, midwife and educator who lives in Bali with her husband and children. Ibu (mother) Robin is a Certified Lay Midwife, with the North American Registry of Midwives and Ikatan Bidan Indonesia. She is a founder and executive director for Yayasan Ibu Bumi Sehat Birth Center in Bali. Lim splits her time between the birth center and the Tsunami Relief Clinic in Samatiga Aceh, Sumatra. Along with receiving babies, Ibu Robin is an author. Many of her articles, stories and poems have been published in Midwifery Today magazine and The Birthkit newsletter. Lim has been given the Alexander Langer International Peace Award. robinlimsupport.org

Ellen Watson:  Ellen Watson is celebrating her 25th year on staff at Esalen Institute, where she studies, practices, and teaches various modalities of moving meditation practice. A licensed minister, Ellen believes that the core of all healing begins in the realm of the heart and the Spirit. Among her great pleasures are opening the door for people to dance, to sing and play and pray, to touch and be touched.  She is passionate about spreading the good news about how waking up can heal and transform the mind, body and soul.  Ellen is a teacher of Esalen® Massage,  Gabrielle Roth’s 5Rhythms™, Holotropic™ Breathwork, SpiritDance, The Art of Essential Touch, and Your Body is a Musical Instrument. From 1984 through 2003, Ellen developed and administered the Movement Arts Program at Esalen. In 1996, she founded MovingVentures™ School, a 501c3, whose mission is education in the somatic arts, focusing on women and men in developing countries, and the southern USA. MovingVentures™ faculty offer workshops, retreats, and trainings at Esalen, in Bali, and at other inspiring locations around the globe. For more information on Ellen visit MovingVentures.org

Giuditta Tornetta: Giuditta is a  birth doula, a  lactation educator, a  clinical hypnotherapist, and an NLP practitioner. She is the author of the bestselling book Painless Childbirth: An Empowering Journey Through Pregnancy and Birth. Giuditta practices clinical hypnotherapy and a method of natural childbirth that uses hypnotic techniques to reduce stress and fear during labor and delivery.  Her love for women and the birthing and parenting experience has  enabled her to help hundreds of women in her practice and thousands with her book and lectures, to obtain the birthing experience they deserve and desire. For more information on Giuditta visit Joy in Birthing.

Rachel Love:  Rachel is here on mother earth to serve by inspiring and empowering others to live passionately, authentically, to activate their full potential, and to bring people together in common-unity for the greatest good…and fun. She lives in Bali, the land of her father’s ancestors where she co-founded an artist’s community and Soma café, which serves organic high vibe foods that are truly food as medicine. She loves to share her passions of permaculture/sustainability, holistic healing & nutrition, preparing living foods, gardening, singing, dancing, poetry, conscious relationship and women’s circles with her community. Nearly six years ago, her son was born in the water with Robin Lim with a painless, completely natural full lotus birth. As a permaculturist, she considers herself a disciple of mother earth and is humbled by the intelligence of the plant realm. Her prayer is that all beings live in harmony connected to the earth.

Ingrid May is a German trained Physical Therapist. In 1980 I started studying alternative Healing modalities and Meditation in India. The journey continued and it brought me to Esalen which became my home for 15 years. There I deepened my Studies and Trainings with many renowned Bodywork, Movement, Shamanic Teachers and Therapists, and working as a Practitioner and Teacher of Esalen Massage. In 1996 I moved to Buenos Aires and opened my own School of Massage and Healing Arts, Oasis, which I direct to this day, but I continue to travel the world learning from gifted Beings and also teaching Esalen Massage Trainings in Argentina, Germany and Spain.  My Passion is to listen into the heart of the matter, and giving it form in action. The last 20 years my spiritual guidance comes from Ramana Maharshi, The Dalai Lama and the Indigenous people of Latin America, and their simple ways of Being.

Cancellation Policy

Cancellations must be made by email to sales@movingventures.org 60 days prior departure.
Moving Ventures reserves the right to cancel any program at any time.

  • If you cancel your reservation more than 60 full days before the start of your workshop:  all money paid, less the non-refundable deposit of , will be refunded to the applicant by MVP
  • If you cancel a workshop with less than 60 days notice:  Applicants who, for whatever reasons (illness, professional obligations, etc.) find themselves unable to participate in the course and have not cancelled 60 days prior to the start of training, are responsible for paying the tuition in full.
  • If You Have Applied for a Scholarship /Assistant Program: if you have applied for a scholarship and we have sold them out, we will, at your request, refund your fee in full if you cancel your reservation at least 30 full days prior to the start of the workshop, or apply it for the non-scholarship/assistant price ($1,800).

* Moving Ventures retains the sole right to revoke the participation in this training of any individual participant, at its discretion. MV also retains the right to cancel this training up to and until 30 days prior to the first day of the course, should there not be a minimum number of 10 participants who have paid their tuition in full. In such a case, all moneys received by MVP from applicants shall be promptly refunded.

Additional Information

Snoring: If you will be staying in one of our shared accommodations and you snore, please come prepared to do everything possible to minimize the discomfort this may cause a roommate—perhaps you should think about taking a private room if possible. If you are not a snorer, please come prepared (earplugs, etc.) for the possibility of sharing a room with a snorer.
Flashlights: Be sure to bring a flashlight for use at night while walking on the grounds, or to reach the town of Ubud. Grounds at hotel are well lit.
Health Services: Moving Ventures has no medical services or pharmaceutical supplies on site. If you will require medical attention or supplies during your stay, please come prepared to administer to your own needs.
Illegal Drugs: In accordance with local laws, the possession or use of illegal drugs in Bali is strictly prohibited.
Lost and Found:We have no lost and found once we leave Bali
Money: We will accept credit cards payment via pay pal or checks. Please send check payable to Moving Ventures c/o joy in Birthing – 4076 Tivoli Avenue Los Angeles, CA 90066. Please bring sufficient funds for incidentals there are plenty of ATMs in Bali to get cash directly from your bank account but there are exchange charges from your bank. Also you can change your money at the hotel and or at a local bank.
VISA To enter Bali you must purchase a visa, you can get one here in the States or you can purchase one upon arrival Visas are $25 US. There is also a leaving the country fee of $15 US.
Airport to Hotel: The van from the airport to the first hotel will cost approx $25 let us know and we can arrange this for you or you can take a local taxi. As there will be many people arriving at different times from different places we cannot arrange one van only. We will however be happy to help with this transportation
Personal Guests: If you like to bring a guest with you not participating in the workshop there will be an extra charge for room and board. Please inquire with an email.
Smoking: Smoking is not permitted in any accommodations, meeting rooms, or other indoor spaces.
Valuables: Moving Ventures is not responsible for your valuables. Some room have safes, some don’t, overall Bali is a very safe place but we do not take responsibility for anything lost or stolen.


Hypnosis For Childbirth the Joy In Birthing Way – Weekend Workshop in Florida September 2010

Birth professionals will receive 10 CEUs by taking this workshop

A Transformational Weekend Workshop with best-selling author Giuditta Tornetta

Class held at

All Bright Beginnings Inc. 401 CenterPointe Circle   Suite 1537   Altamonte Springs, Fl 32701 – 407-265-9787

Hypnosis for a Painless Childbirth is a weekend full-immersion class designed for couples/mothers  looking to deepen their preparation for labor and delivery, using and ancient and proven method of relaxation: self-hypnosis.  We’ll teach you a technique that will help you achieve the birthing experience you deserve and desire. Basic childbirth education combined with hypnosis techniques, position and labor support for the partner will be presented.

Whether you chose a drug-free birth or are unsure about your choices ahead of time, hypnosis can be a powerful tool in assisting a laboring woman through her childbirth experience. Deep inner peace helps Mothers move purposefully and mindfully through the stages of labor to the awesome and joyful moment of birth. Birth plans, induction, pain relief will be discussed.  Snacks will be provided, please bring water and lunch.

You will learn how to eradicate fears and anxieties that can stand in the way of your body gently relaxing and birthing your baby.

Consciously including your baby in the preparation, labor and delivery, we’ll help you shift your consciousness from “Labor is happening to me” to “My baby and I are working together to bring a new life into the world” using and ancient and proven method of relaxation: self-hypnosis

Early Bird Cost $250 per couple/individual  ($300 if registering after 9/20/10)


Space is limited to reserve your place please send $100 deposit via paypal to joyinbirthing@yahoo.com

or send a check to joy in birthing – 4076 Tivoli Avenue – los Angeles, CA 90066

Birth partners, doulas or midwives are welcome to learn deep relaxation techniques to help clients obtain the birthing experience they desire.  Certification of completion will be awarded.

Doulas, midwives, and birthing partners will be able to:

1.  Acquire  hypnosis and NLP (neuro linguistic programming) tools to help expecting clients zero in and release lingering anxieties and fears related to labor and delivery.
2.  Learn a simple self-query specifically designed to facilitate prenatal bonding.
3.  Understand the relationship between the nine months of pregnancy, fetal development in the womb as they related to deep self-discovery.

All participants will receive a complimentary copy of Ms. Tornetta CD Joyful Birth.  10 CEUs available for practitioners

To register please make sure you fill up registration for using the paypal button.

Conversations with the Womb January 2012

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What would you give birth to if you felt safe, nurtured, confident, loved and lovable?
Healing the Womb

Workshop held at:

Joy In Birthing – 4076 Tivoli Avenue – Los Angeles CA 90066

to enroll call or email us at joyinbirthing@yahoo.com or call     3 1 0  – 4 3 5 6 0 5 4

Limited Space Enroll NOW  Cost per person $140 early bird –   $175 at the door (if you have taken this class in the past you can take ti again at a 50% discount) not two classes are ever the same

Unleash the Creator Within

All life/creativity/purpose begins in the womb. There was a time when our ancestors recognized the womb as sacred – the vessel of new life – the channel of divine, creative energy – the seat of a woman’s feminine power.


 

This workshop is for people who have  experienced:

  • Unwanted and traumatic cesarean birth or excessive medical interventions
  • Miscarriage
  • Failed IVF attempts
  • Terminations
  • Infertility

And for those who:

  • Have been born though a traumatic birth
  • Feel stuck creatively and are ready to birth a new self

Whether you are giving birth to children and want to heal your past experience (miscarriages, terminations, cesarean births or unpleasant/traumatic birthing experience) or your are giving birth to projects, businesses or new aspects of yourself,  you will learn how to bring back  into your life a sense of mystery; manifesting the magic that will unfold and unfurl your creative wings.

Research shows that how we are born influences how we give birth – to children, projects, businesses or new aspects of ourselves.  WE ARE CONTINUALLY GIVING BIRTH – No matter the age, men or women.

Giuditta has designed  a workshop open to anyone who wants to heal their experiences in the womb, their relationship with their creative core, their memories about being in the womb, the relationship with their womb after giving birth, or their current feelings about their womb while going through menopause.

Learning about our beginnings helps us to understand the patterns that run our lives, and provides insight into who we are and why we do what we do.  When the challenges in our lives can be traced back to the core issues that are causing them, the symptoms disappear and we can live our lives on solid ground.

In this workshop Giuditta Tornetta offers practical ways to become conscious of the helpful or hindering patterns that developed from early experiences in the womb. Recalling our life in the womb and birthing experience through hypnosis, participants will learn how to harness or heal their unwanted patterns transforming them into a source of creative power.

Using story-telling, hypnosis, NLP, visualization and self-inquiry, we will create a safe environment for you to heal your past experiences and create a new story. Your will receive practical tools to reframe  the past so that you can have a healthy present, and  navigate the future.

This one-day profound and transformational workshop is offered for a special introductory early bird special   $1 40.00 till November 15 – $175 at the door. All participants will receive a complimentary Self-hypnosis recording “Unleashing the creator within”

Pay via paypal

Please indicate in your payment which workshop it is for Thank you

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Here’s what people say about this workshop:

“It is wonderful to discover the power of the womb and tap into it!”

“A wonderful way to heal, recharge and ultimately love yourself as a woman”

“I hadn’t connected with my womb since my last birth, so great to see her again!”

“An opportunity to discover, heal and form an alliance with your womb”

“I was able to connect with my maternal grandmother, whom I never met, and forgive her for helping my mother give me away for adoption.  This connection and forgivness was worth the entire cost of the course for me.”

I no longer feel alone and misunderstood.  I am not the only one with these feelings.  Giuditta has given me hope.”

How you feel about me is none of my business

Excerpt from Painless Childbirth: An Empowering Journey Through Pregnancy and Birth

Many of our actions are born from feelings. Whether the feelings come from our conscious or subconscious mind, they lead us to take action.  When we feel unsafe, we choose actions that are protective, limited, cautious, and non-expansive.  When we feel confident, we stretch ourselves to reach goals that others might think are impossible. In order to become conscious of our feelings to manage our reactions, we need to discover where they come from.

For many years, medical scientists defined a baby as physical matter, especially brain matter, which had no ability to register or process memory, learning, trauma, emotion, or any truly human experiences until months after birth.  In 1980, a study on prenatal stimulation was conducted in Caracas, Venezuela under the direction of psychologist Beatriz Manrique.[1] The results stirred interest in the psychology community. Six hundred families, divided into experimental and control groups, were involved in a project that tested the babies for six years following their prenatal program.  These studies have proven what few believed prior to 1980: (1) that babies in the womb are alert, aware, and attentive to activities involving voice, touch, and music; (2) that babies benefit from these activities by forming stronger relationships with their parents and their parents with them, making for better attachments and better birthing experiences, and (3) that these babies tend to show precocious development of speech, fine and gross motor performance, better emotional self-regulation, and better cognitive processing.[2]

If babies are aware and alert while in the womb, then our emotions can create an environment which can be perceived as pleasant and supportive of learning, or unpleasant, suppressant, and geared to protect the status quo.  Once aware of their influences on the unborn babies, many of my clients are in fear of any strong negative emotion.  They feel the pressure to be happy and serene and become almost paralyzed by it, afraid of doing something wrong, and often angry at those who take their apparent serenity away.  It’s better to realize that we are here to teach our children how we deal with whatever comes up in life, not to shield them completely. As a mother, it is your responsibility to teach your child how to resolve situations, not evade them. 

People facing the same situation can have diametrically different emotions.  There are two basic feelings¾good and bad¾and two ways to confront and assimilate what happens in our lives.  When a conflict arises and we feel bad, we can either learn from it, bettering ourselves and our lives, or we can consider it a challenge and perpetuate the conflict by reacting to protect ourselves, and by attempting to preserve what we believe to be right.  In so doing, we forfeit the chance to grow and learn.

As a parent, your responsibility is to teach your child by example. Therefore, you have to learn how to express and share your feelings so that you may teach your baby to do the same safely.

How you feel about me is none of my business

We often enter into conflict to protect ourselves. Most people’s feelings are aligned with their need to be right and to be understood.  We feel bad about criticisms only when we believe them to be true.  If someone called you an eggplant, you would laugh it off or call them insane.  But if they said you were fat or stupid or unlovable, that may strike a deep cord. If deep inside you agree with the criticism you’ll become defensive, angry and lash out at the person who has offered it. Thus, we do not react solely to the words, but also to an old core belief about ourselves that the words evoke.   When you agree with the critical assessment, it will hurt you, if you don’t you will be able to dismiss it and even look at the person that has express it with compassion. Lashing out and insulting someone is a defense mechanism. When you hear a particular criticism that resonates, deal with the pain by considering it a signal to humbly look within and see what truth may lie there.  You might not agree with what you’re hearing, but attend to the message rather than focusing on the messenger. If the universe is repeatedly sending the same theme through different people, pay attention.  Stay open and learn from each situation.  The ultimate act of love and courage is self-examination. To engage in conflict with others requires far less strength of character.

 

[1] Early Parenting is Prenatal Parenting! By David Chamberlain, Editor, www.birthpsychology.com

[2] ibid

 

Painless Childbirth is a Scientific Reality *

We have been helping women achieve the birthing experience they deserve and desire for fifteen years, bringing hope, courage, inspiration and love to thousands of families around the world. We hope our books and products touch your life in a similar way. Give the gift of one of our books or products to a family member, a friend, or yourself. Always a great value, they are a reminder of your love.

Millions of women all over the world experience a natural, drug-free, and painless childbirth. You can too. If you would like to join this growing number, this is what you have to do.  Find out more

*A study conducted by CL Pasero and R Britt (August 1998). Managing Pain During Labor, published in the American Journal of Nursing 98:10-11, reports that indeed a painless childbirth is a reality for as many as 45,000 WOMEN EACH YEAR IN AMERICA. One of the universal laws states: if one person can do it, it can be done by others.